I wanted to share a little more as to the reason i was sparked to writing this blog. The rationale i explained in my first post about my disdain for what I saw as terrible advice, however the true catalyst for starting this was an Ask Amy column in the February sixth edition of the Press and Sun Bulletin in which she answers a question by a person using the label concerned, the exchange was written as follows:

Dear Amy: Recently my sister and I went out to an R-rated movie. Someone else brought a child along who could have been no more than 10 years old.

The movie had graphic sex scenes and nudity along with graphic violence and language.

I would not have allowed my teenagers to see this movie.

I feel that movies are rated R for a reason. There should be a law to prevent younger kids from seeing inappropriate material even when their parents accompany them.

Is there a way I can approach these parents and voice my concern about what they are allowing their kids to view on the big screen? — Sincerely Concerned

Dear Concerned: Voicing your views publicly to a parent who makes such poor choices is unwise (especially in front of the child). I agree with you that some parents don't seem to imagine the impact of such media on their children. Among other consequences, their kids may grow up to be the kind of parents who expose young kids to inappropriate media.

Can you guess my frustrations?

I found myself offended by the response given to this letter, why? Are you kidding me Amy, this is 2014 how have we not progressed as a society past the way people view films? I honestly do not care what the film in question was, and as it was not mentioned for what I assume are legal reasons I will treat it as though it would qualify for the worst film of the year. For our generation film is our for of artistic expression, as music was before that, literature, and painting, it is the medium for which we not only express ourselves but for what future generations will use to understand us. It is understandable to perceive that there will be dissenters, yet so intolerant of a medium. I completely understand and objection of bring a young child to a film that may or may not be appropriate for their viewing. But to be so intrusive in another person's family life is unacceptable. There is a rating scale for a reason, and coupled with the ease of access to internet reviews is it so wild to imagine not only a child may be mature enough to understand and appreciate the content found with in? Furthermore I would like to ad an example of a film that would qualify as meeting all the requirements that the writer used to describe their film, it contains graphic, and horrendous acts of violence, Strong language, and several instances of what would be construed as sexual imagery, oh yeah it's also not only won countless awards it's considered a work of art a point that I would find very hard to dispute. Figure out what film I'm talking about yet? I bet you've seen it, and enjoyed it. 

The Film in question is the Speilberg Classic, Schindler's List. Didn't see that one coming not did you? There is obvious adult content that is presented in such a manner that is not only tasteful but allows a new generation too experience in some way a terrible event in human history that needs to be emphasized to future generations. Having said this I would like to give my response to this letter and officially give my response to this letter.

Dear Concerned,

Your opinion is one that has been expressed before, and I'd like to inform you that there is in fact legislation in place to protect children from viewing adult level content, it is our current ratings system. And yes you are right to be concerned with the many flaws in the system itself. There are indeed many cracks that allow things to slip through the system. The ratings board itself is made up of of incredibly conservative and easily biased individuals that tend to play favorites when assigning ratings, which then can greatly affect the profitability and release of the film. Furthermore the ratings system has changed over the years, and not in the way you may imagine it has actually become stricter, a film that would receive an R rating today may have only received a PG-13 ten years ago. I have to say I am very pleased with your concern about the current ratings board, and I suggest you share your concern for the ratings board with them through a strongly worded letter. 
There is one other point you mentioned that I wish to touch upon you mentioned how you approach the parents, and I think you are on to something. I believe that a direct approach may be for the best. Now directly undermining their authority in front of the children would be most effective. Assert your dominance and do not take no for an answer. It is very important that you explain to both the parents and the children that you only have the little ones best interests in mind and, that you are far more capable of taking care of the youths than the people who have raised them since birth. Also inform the children that there is no possible way they are emotional mature and stable enough to view content of this nature. It is very important to instill this to them at a young age because they should be emotionally stunted through their young adulthood. In fact the test of your effectiveness would be to remain in contact so that when they are in their early twenties you can assess if they are still uncomfortable of both authority figures and forms of art with mature undertones.
Thank you so much for voicing your concern, and I believe if we had more surrogate parents like you the world would be a much better place.

Oh that was a joy, obviously that was a bit of a heated response and it will not be a normal response in fact on that same day there was another letter that was responded to that I would also like to give a response to that I will give a more appropriate and brief response that will be more to the style in which I want to answer your question.

Dear Amy: I think you didn't go far enough in your reply to "Furious" about the grandmother who gave her 15-year-old granddaughter a vibrator and asked her to keep it a secret.

If this was a grandfather (instead of a grandmother), your answer would have been different. This is obvious "grooming" behavior of a sexual predator. — Been There

Dear Been There: I've heard from many readers reminding me that female family members can also be sexual predators. My advice was to limit any private interaction because this grandmother was not trustworthy.

Dear Been there,
Your concern is genuine,but I would like to remind you that she simply gave her grand daughter a vibrator, she did not force its use upon her, nor did she try and use it with her. Her purpose was harmless outside being incredibly progressive and genuine. Statistically speaking programs that teach sexual restraint and abstinence from both intercourse and self pleasure cause more harm than good. They tend to produce sexually pent up teens and accidental pregnancies. this is largely due to a lack of safe sex practices and information for young people that are simply curious about their own bodies and those of the opposite sex. However it is ultimately up the parent and the child to talk to each other and explain their point of view because at the end of the day the most important thing is that they communicate with each other.

I hope you enjoyed this first official post, and I look forward to being able to respond to your emails.
as always send your questions to directionsbydarron@gmail.com I wish you all the best of luck in dealing with the difficult situations that arise in every day life.

- Darron

(below is reference information for ask amy as it seems right since she inspired this whole venture, even if we don't see eye to eye, also its probably good for legal type purposes)

Read more: Ask Amy: Long-ago assault now haunts ex-wife (02/06) - The Denver Post http://www.denverpost.com/askamy/ci_25070606/ask-amy-long-ago-assault-now-haunts-ex#ixzz2t54JxYGi 
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What is the mission statement of directions by Darron you might ask. It is simple really, to provide real advice from the perspective of an everyday person, and more importantly honest advice. I have realized over the years that advice columns are complete rubbish. This is a combination of the fact that they are nationally syndicated, and that they are written for a very selective audience. Furthermore most of the practices that are suggested are merely either avoidance based or rooted in an archaic point of view that causes frustration for the modern reader So for the first time I am offering an outlet for both men and women to anonymously submit their questions and I will to the best of my life experience and understanding return with a plan of attack sometimes humorous, but always insightful. Send your questions to directionsbydarron@gmail.com today, and check back here for my always helpful insights.